Let's Stop Blaming Children for our Poor Decisions
Do you have children? Perfect keep reading.
If you don't but one day will, perfect, I'm about to drop some knowledge bombs so keep reading.
Having a child 2 years ago was one of the greatest and proudest moments of my life. However, I've come to realize the challenges that arise with having my own little Chucky running around. I've developed great culinary skill because going out to eat, is no longer fun.
Anyways, there was a time when I didn't have children. So you can imagine that when I had to give nutritional advice to people with children, it was never from a place of experience. Advice like "stay away from the cookies" or "stop eating cereal for breakfast", was usually followed up with, "well my kids like cereal and cookies so I have to feed it to them, and if it's in the house, I'm going to eat it too".
Does this sound familiar?
Well fast forward to my current 32 year old self, I now have a 2 year old and an 8 year old step-daughter who both LOVE to eat. So now my advice has a little more back bone to it because I live it.
Here's the frank truth, our kid's eat what we allow them to eat. Also, it's totally fine to not have ice cream and cookies in the house. I'm sure they'll live.
What we don't keep in the house:
95% of other "junk" foods
What we consistently have in rotation:
Fruit (Specifically grapes, strawberries, bananas, apples)
With the exception of maybe a few other things, that's about it.
First off, kids tend to follow their parent's actions and not their words necessarily. So, I make it easy by eating simple and healthy foods. This way, they follow what I do and develop some good habits.
So Cornell, you deprive your kids of having fun?
Absolutely not but I have total control over it. Look up at the cereal and eggos we keep for breakfast. Also, we order pizza once a month because they love it. If we are driving and they want ice cream, I have no problem satisfying my sweet tooth. *Sorry, I meant our sweet tooth :)
The biggest thing that has helped us take control over our eating habits is by not putting food we don't need in our cart at the grocery store.
When I see most people grocery shop, it usually goes something like this:
Johnny wants chocolate chip cookies.
Mommy buys chocolate chip cookies.
Daddy and mommy eat a few of those chocolate chip cookies later at home.
Here's what I want from you,
Let's get to a place, where we take ownership for our decisions and not place the blame on them. If we have food in the house that's keeping your from achieving your goals, that's on you to fix and put EVERYONE in a better situation.
*Keep in mind, my kids are young so when they get older so maybe things will get a bit more difficult but as my father and mother used to tell me when I was younger, "Cornell, when you start paying some of these bills to live here, then you can start making decisions on what we buy".